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FOUR TENETS OF TRANSFORMATIONAL BDSM


PRESENCE


For many years I wondered what path of service was my highest calling. Each time I allowed myself to ask the question "why am I here?" the answer that would arrive first is "to be presence."


Given the broadness of that directive, I took the liberty of choosing what kind of work I wanted to bring my presence into, and there was nothing I could imagine to be more intriguing, stimulating, fun, and deeply IMPORTANT than being a part of the revolution for widespread erotic freedom for our tender and kinky species.


If you've been longing to be seen, explored, played with, and perhaps even ignored with a deep level of presence, do reach out. I would love to regard every corner of you with impeccable attention.

PLEASURE


Unapologetically allowing ourselves to experience pleasure is a radical act. I savor each experience of being guide, witness, and playmate in the pleasure of another. I believe that being witnessed in our sensations, emotions, and desires, by another kinky, caring, present human, allows those feelings to be felt more deeply. I believe that coming into the body through feeling is the most direct and enjoyable route to knowing who we are, what we want, and how to create our erotic dream life.


Designing the creative-erotic life we want is a two part game:

We must discover what we want through engaging in imaginative, embodied, connection-based exploration of our bodies, psyches, and desires. Allowing and following pleasure guides us in this exploration.


Clearing out what is in the way through a process of de-conditioning limiting beliefs, habits, and ego identifications. Pleasure and play quicken the process of creating new neural pathways in the brain. The simple act of being witnessed and enjoyed in our pleasure can unwind years of shame and sexual suppression.


Both of these practices help us to build confidence and clarity as we remember who we are underneath who we think we are. Coming home to the inherently erotic and pleasurable nature of being human is a pathway to a deeply satisfying sense of joy and belonging.

PRIMAL PLAY


We are gorgeously complex and sophisticated beings who get to play with consciousness in infinitely delightful ways.


We are also animals with sometimes unruly limbic systems. Straight up.


I love bringing raw, primal energy into sessions through wrestling, impact play, beat downs, knockouts, pet play, wild role plays, and sessions held in nature.


We all need outlets for our primal impulses to express themselves in consensual, life-giving ways.

A wise woman once told me, if we don’t let ourselves go wild, we go crazy.


Let’s get wild together, for our own good, and for the good of humanity.

PURE, PASSIONATE POWER


Underpinning all of this is the pure life force energy that flows through and animates the world of form.


Sensual, sexual, creative play is a direct pathway to connect with our own vitality and erotic-energetic power.


Without creative energy, there is no creation. There is a relentlessly flowing wellspring of energy that is available in your body, and I have endless ways to coax open your pleasure portals and seduce more of you out into the world.


You will leave every session feeling enlivened, invigorated, and the perfect combination of satiated and wanting more.


Each session is an opportunity to reclaim more of your life force to infuse into your body, your relationships, your work, and every corner of your life.


This is not just about a one-off experience of pleasure, though that is an inevitability. This is about an ongoing process of becoming more erotically alive. My immersion program is ideal for those who wish to explore this tenet thoroughly.

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